TIP 2: TELL A TRUSTED ADULT. A PARENT'S PERSPECTIVE

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MARY PAT KING: There's a difference between telling and tattling.  And with my son he really gets that, to tell on someone is when someone's going to hurt themselves or you see that there's danger. But to tattle is when you're trying to get someone in trouble.  And we've really created that conversation of,  "This is when you need to tell me."

KEVIN EPLING: Telling a child who a trusted adult is someone that they feel comfortable with.  I mean, maybe "trusted" is really pushing that, but they have to be comfortable enough that when they go and they talk to this person, they're going to do something.  I always tell students that they really shouldn't get directly involved in a physical altercation.  They need to go and they need to tell somebody. 

MARY PAT KING: Parents have to open up communication with their child in a way that's safe, that allows their child to come to them when they feel like something's wrong or they feel themselves bullied.  If they keep seeing something happen over and over again and they don't know who to tell in the school or they don't feel like they've been listened to, well, tell your parents and have them at least be part of the brainstorm of "how do I solve this problem in my school."  Maybe the parents never get involved in the solution, but they can help with that brainstorm.  To truly help address the problem, and to do it in a productive way that results in a family-school partnership that really works toward improving the problem, both for your child and for every child.